Don’t smoke, drink, and sleep it away. Sit with it.
– Master
We don’t understand emotions.
And then you try to control your emotions.
They are not your enemy, they are angels watching over you.
Have you ever felt a bad emotion while eating a chocolate sundae on a date with your lover?
Unless you’re a psychopath and planning to lock them in your basement, good experiences lead to good emotions.
In the same way, bad experiences lead to bad emotions.
Let’s just focus on the bad ones.
Emotions reveal what needs your attention. Anxiety is nothing but repressed emotions.
Here are 3 easy steps to deal with them:
Pause
Something is bothering you, but you just can’t figure out what it is.
What do you do?
You try everything to escape it.
Binge on Netflix, smoke, drink, sex, sleep.
Nah. Not gonna work.
Take a break. Sit in silence.
Really just sit down on a chair and take three deep breaths.
Have a Friendly Conversation with Yourself
Now that you’re calm, ask yourself “what’s bothering me”
And in the next few seconds the answer will be slapped across your face.
Mostly it’s a small thing that’s stuck in your subconscious like popcorn between your teeth.
Face it. Look at it. Observe it.
It’s not going to kill you. It’s a thought.
Sympathize with Yourself
Tell yourself “it’s gonna be ok”
You have seen worse. You have made comebacks.
Remember that nothing is more important than peace.
Protect your peace at all costs.
Overthinking won’t fix it.
Escaping it won’t fix it.
Poisoning your body won’t fix it
Conclusion
Emotions are simple signs. A sign to pay attention.
Don’t complicate them. Just attend to them.
And once you do, they leave you with peace and a smile on your face.
Whenever something bothers you, don’t run away.
Sit with it.
Here’s the Formula:
Control Emotion = Pause + Self-talk + Positive Sympathy