Before we begin, let me ask you a question:
What do you think is confidence?
Is it being able to talk to anyone on the street?
Is it giving a presentation in a room full of people?
Is it talking in front of the whole class?
Is it being the center of attention at a party?
If you think confidence is any of the above, you couldn’t be more wrong.
Let me explain.
The above definitions of confidence come from the world of extroverts. For them, connecting with people & socializing is confidence.
But, hold on.
What about you?
What if you just don’t want to see people.
What if you don’t want to even step outside of your house.
What if you don’t like interacting with 10 people at the same time.
Does that make you any less confident?
Hell no!
And let me tell you why.
The lion lives in a group. The group is called pride and has anywhere between 10 to 30 lions. Lions are excellent predators. They hunt in groups. And the food is shared with the whole pride.
A tiger also belongs to the cat family as lions. But tigers are the complete opposite of lions. They live alone. They hunt alone. And they eat alone.
They are both big cats. Both have exceptional hunting skills. And both are equally powerful.
But they live in a completely different way.
Does that make a lion better than a tiger? Or a tiger better than a lion.
In the world of humans:
Extroverts are lions.
Introverts are tigers.
A lion never tries to live alone and hunt alone like a tiger.
And a tiger never tries to form groups and share food like a lion.
Nature made them different. And they accepted it just the way it is.
Confidence is not trying to be somebody else.
Confidence is not draining yourself to follow some advice.
Confidence is not doing shit that’s totally opposite of who you are.
On the other hand, confidence is to fully accept yourself just the way you are.
And no one said it better than Willard Scott,
Positive feelings come from being honest about yourself and accepting your personality, and physical characteristics, warts and all; and, from belonging to a family that accepts you without question.
Being confident simply means to be comfortable in your own skin. To be in complete harmony with your own true self. To respect your wishes, your feelings, your likes and dislikes.
Confidence is to JUST BE YOU.
Now let me share with you a few ways of how to become confident as an introvert.
Stop giving a shit
Seriously, it’s now or never.
The clock is ticking. All you got is now. Either you can live as your true self or you can spend your whole life living a lie. You have to decide. And my friend, now is the time.
Let people think what they wanna think. Let them judge. Let them talk. Just stop listening. You are special and unique in your own way.
And only when you truly accept yourself, you start to discover your own unique gifts.
Stop Suppressing your needs
It’s enough.
You have suffered enough. You have to end this. Or this stress will never leave you in peace. It’s time.
Tell them who you are. Tell them what you want. Tell them what you don’t want. Tell them what you like & dislike.
For how long are you going to hide how you feel? Haven’t you had enough?
Let it out. Stop letting those emotions choke you. EXPRESS THEM.
Tell them,
“ This is who I am. And this is how I prefer things. If you don’t like it, take a walk.”
And finally, love yourself more
You don’t love yourself.
Do you?
Loving yourself means making yourself a priority. Treating yourself with kindness. Having boundaries. And above all respecting your own needs.
You give, give, and give. And drain yourself empty.
But, who’s gonna take care of you? Huh?
YOU. No one else can. And no one else cares.
Take responsibility for giving yourself the love you deserve. You are priority No.1.
Choose yourself first. Everyday. Every way. And in every damn moment of your life.
And that, my dear friend, is the whole secret of becoming confident.
You are already confident.
You were born confident.
But you are confident like a Tiger, not a lion.
Alone. Independent. Fearless. Intelligent. Empathetic. Intuitive.
And now UNSTOPPABLE.