The ‘One’ Insight that Changed My Life

In my younger days, I was a confused young man.

I was not at crossroads, I lived there. It was my life.

Let me give you an example to illustrate the depths of my confusion.

If I had to decide between two films, here’s what my routine looked like:

And after an hour or so of research, I used to get so tired, I mostly ended up giving up and not watching any.

This was followed religiously in all parts of my life. Whether it was deciding clothes, music, books, food, or career.

Making a choice was hard. Very hard.

I wanted everything to be the best. High quality, high class, top shelf, PERFECT.

Unable to make a choice, it constantly triggered my anxiety and drove me into spirals of overthinking.

What to do, what not to do – that was always the question.

Then one summer afternoon, everything changed…

I was listening to the radio. The announcer played a song. I couldn’t catch the name of the artist, but the song hypnotized me.

That whole evening, I continued humming the tune. And the next day, and the whole week.

I just couldn’t get it out of my head. Felt like I was stuck with it for life.

The following weekend, I was at a friend’s place. We were listening to a mixed tape and chilling.

And that same song came up, and my friend immediately pressed next.

“Hey! Wait. Wait.” I said. “Play that previous song.”

My friend gave me a look.

“You serious? You hate Bee Gees.” he said.

“That’s Bee Gees?”

“It’s Saturday Night fever.”

Something changed that day. Something shifted inside me. I was never the same again.

What change that day took years of self-reflection to fully understand.

To put all those years of reflection into perspective and state it simply, it was this:

There are no right or wrong choices, there are only perceptions.

Your perceptions are build upon:

My perception of ‘Bee Gees’ was based on the opinions of some friends. Not my own personal experience. But the day I heard that song, it changed.

Remember this: The universe is indifferent. It has no right or wrong.

The duality you see in the world is a creation of human preferences.

It’s all about preference.

I like apples. You like oranges.

Our preferences have no meaning. It doesn’t make apples better or oranges an inferior fruit.

Apples are apples. Oranges are oranges.

It’s you who gives them their meaning and definitions.

There is no right choice, there’s only what’s right for you.

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