Introverts talk. And they talk a lot. But it comes with certain terms and conditions.
Introverts are intelligent social chameleons who have a built-in sophisticated bullshit detector. The job of this detector is simple: save energy.
You will mostly find them on an empty park bench admiring nature, staring at the ocean on an empty beach, hitting the gym at 4.35 am so they can workout in peace. They try their best to avoid people and save energy so that they can use it for the things they really love.
But people are people. And they can’t be avoided all the time. And that’s when they use their secret BS detector.
When someone talks to them, that person’s every word, gesture, tone, even the subtlest of expression passes through that detector. And it reveals to them, very clearly, if that person is really interested or just making small talk.
If it’s small talk, they will still reciprocate. A smile, a nod, a few words of validation. They can read people like a book. They know not only what you’re saying but also why you’re saying it. And having a kind heart, they’ll lend an ear and put a smile on your face. End of story.
But, if they feel you’re really interested and pass the vibe check, you are in for a wild ride. Let me explain.
Introverts are simple people. They want a simple life with simple people. Now simple here may have many definitions, but for them, simple is being real & honest. And how do they know if you’re real & honest? One word: Actions.
They have a philosophy: Show, don’t tell. So, if you’re really interested in them, show it through your actions. And not just action for the sake of action, but action with a pure intention. An intention that stems from genuine curiosity.
Introverts are givers. Just try giving them once and see. You will always receive more than you gave. That’s just how they’re built. And if they feel you’re someone who’s genuinely interested in knowing them, they’ll give you back that same curiosity. And the intensity of that curiosity will shock you.
They will make you feel like one in a million. The thing is, once you pass the vibe check, they’d want to know everything about you. Trust me, everything. Your routine. Your habits. Your hobbies. Your addictions. Your understanding of life. Your purpose. Your favourite films, songs, movies, books. And not just what you like, but ‘why’ you like it. Introverts don’t swim on the surface, they go deep. They want to know the why’s behind the why’s.
And once you’ve reciprocated their efforts, and they fully trust you, they shift to a whole new level.
They will remember every little thing about you. Your favourite color. Your favourite ice-cream flavour. How you like you coffee. They’ll guard all your weaknesses and insecurities. And change the topic if someone else even mentions them.
That’s the kind of talk they want. And that’s why they don’t open up to everyone so easily. People think they’re shy. Or rude. Or have an attitude. But the truth is, all they’re doing is protecting their energy for the real and honest ones.
Most introverts have one or maybe two friends. They may know a lot of people, but there are only a few who truly know them. Simply because there are very few people in the world who would fully accept you for who you are. People who see beauty in your flaws. People who’ll guard your insecurities to their grave. And they have reserved their ‘talk’ only for those real ones.
Call them quiet, call them rude, call them shy, call them whatever you want, but the ones who’ve really experienced their soul, their love, their companionship know… introverts are simple people with a good heart.
Introverts talk. And they talk a lot. But first they have to know you. Understand you. Trust you. Vibe with you on a totally different level. And once they’re ready, they’ll show you a world only few ever get to see.
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Stay blessed,
Karun